November 21st, 2009 
Rachel 
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And I’m not talking just about the particular fetish or scenario, I’m talking about the kind of person that you want to spend your time with. Again, look at this journey as the beginning of a friendship. You want to find someone who understands what your goals are and what you want from the relationship. Likewise, you need to be sure that the other participant in your relationship is upfront about their needs.
Here are some more things to look for:
Honesty: Have a strict policy of honesty from the beginning and you can weed out anyone that isn’t being truthful as well as portraying yourself honestly as well.
Similar Interests: Find someone that shares your interests so that you can both explore them together. This might be sexual interests or outside interests if you’re looking for a more than casual affair.
Age: Some people don’t care about the age factor, but if you’re more comfortable with a certain age range–be particular. There’s no sense in having your fantasy only halfway fulfilled.
Follow your Intuition: As with any personal contact, sometimes the best way to determine the motives of your new partner(s) is to listen to your gut. If you feel that something is wrong, then it probably is. Better to be safethan sorry.
For some singles and swingers, you may want to sit down and write up a list of the things that are important to you in this new adventure. Be specific about what you want and what you will expect. This way, there are no games about what is going to happen—unless you like that sort of thing.
Online adult dating websites (Eroticy.com and AdultFriendFinder.com, for example) offer ways to categorize the other members and allow only certain ones to contact you. Many times you can prioritize certain features that you’re looking for, and the websites will match you up with others of the same leanings. In this way, it’s really quite simple to weed through the millions of other people to find just the one(s) for you
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