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My Girlfriend wants to break up-what do I do?

  • Posted on April 2, 2010 at 1:32 AM

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In Case of Relationship Emergency – Don’t Call 911

by T Dub Jackson, author of < <The Magic Of Making Up System>>
You smell the smoke, hear the crackle of a flame and
start to swoon from the searing heat.

and…

You suspect there’s about to be a raging fire.

But the fire and carnage you fear won’t be from
any material possessions lost, but from something much
more precious, a once loving relationship going up in flames.

No matter what issue set your fire ablaze, many
of us don’t know where or how to begin applying
the water to put the fire out.

In fact…

Unlike a real fire where a fireman first looks to
find, attack and cool the source of the fire (if possible).

Many times attacking the center of the heat is the WRONG approach to take
when trying to extinguish our relationship problems and fires.

For example, let’s imagine that since this ‘recession’
your relationship has flamed up some worrisome financial fires.

Not too hard to imagine these days?

These may start as little brush fires, small issues and arguments
over how and where money is being spent…or not spent.

Then, maybe because of the heat and pressure of these
financial fires one partner starts ‘escaping’ more than
is healthy for the relationship.

He escapes into TV, Video Games, Alcohol, Cyber
Porn…or worse?

Now…what do we have?

We’ve got two fires smoldering away and soon to be a third because
the other partner is starting to feel lonely and isolated.

Can you almost feel the pressure?

Feel it coming to a boil?

Now with three fires off to a crackling start there’s
even greater risk of fire and damage spreading to other areas.

So? Just which fire do we put out first?

Our financial fire? Our financial blaze seems pretty tough to
extinguish right now and not likely to die soon.

So maybe we should start with the escapism? That seems
like an easy fire to put out…IF you’re not the one escaping!

…and try telling someone that’s feeling lonely and isolated
that “they should just snap out of it” is like throwing fuel
into the fire.

So where do we begin when we don’t see any
good place to start? And we finally realize that
trying to stomp out all our blazes at once actually spreads
the fire?…FASTER!

The answer is…

Unlike fighting a REAL fire, we start where there
IS NO FIRE.

Yes, start where there is absolutely no smoke, no heat
and no flame.

What we need to do is stop focusing on the problem(s)
and focus on where we still have passion…even if
it’s just a little.

Find even the tiniest things you both enjoy doing
together, ACTIVELY put your problems aside and begin to
rebuild the passion between you.

And do you know what invariably happens? Often once you’ve
rekindled the passion between you…the PROBLEMS will often work
themselves out.

The fires extinguish themselves.

Here’s how it may play out using our example;

Tom and Cindy both love cooking together.

They both actively decide to let their problems
go and NOT worry about them for awhile, but to start
by cooking dinner together and EATING together at
the dinner table…EVERY night.

Often because they’ve had such a great time cooking
and eating together…they play some cards or monopoly
afterwards and share some laughs and have a little fun.

Now, because Cindy isn’t feeling so isolated because
Tom’s always watching TV or surfing the web…

That little bit of fun turns into love making a little
more often.

Which in part…leads to…

Tom starting to feel better, finds new confidence,
and as his confidence builds… Tom gets more assertive
about finding work.

Soon…

Tom lands what maybe not the best job in the world, but one
that relieves a lot of the financial pressure until he
can find his perfect fit.

And before your very eyes…

Where Tom and Cindy’s relationship was about to burst
into flames…

Now, they are rising from the rubble with
a stronger and more fire proof marriage than ever before.

The moral of the story is that with enough PASSION
couples can overcome most any problem including affairs, drug use,
even death in the family.

But when there is very little passion even the tiniest
problems…become big, out of control, blazing fires.

Now if you’re reading this, but feel that an out
of control fire has already ‘gutted’ and put an end to your
relationship. You may find it comforting to know that there
may be a second chance for you?

I’ve made some amazing new breakthroughs in the human
love, bonding and REBONDING process.

Many of these breakthroughs are just as counterintuitive
as the technique I’ve just handed you here.

I’ve made a special video with you in mind where I share
one of my counterintuitive rebonding techniques.

You’re invited to watch here:

< <HOW TO GET YOUR EX BACK VIDEO

While I’m a little bumbly and no Brad Pitt on camera…

…the video has been watched over 893,000 times (rated 4 1/2 stars) and
it’s rare for a day to go by where I don’t receive a really heart
warming note from someone that has put their relationship back
together after going through hell and fearing they’d never
find their way back.

Hope it helps you too:-)

T Dub Jackson
MagicOfMakingUp.com
how to get MY ex back????

Flirting Tips and Romantic Ideas

  • Posted on January 7, 2010 at 8:48 PM

Your dating world will heat up, almost overnight, when you use the fine art of romantic ideas and flirting tips. A couple of tips to get you started…..Make them feel special and loved. Give your lover/spouse/date whatever they enjoy, using your own unique ways.

Romantic ideas and flirting tips have almost become a lost skill today. With today’s fast paced lifestyles…fast cars, fast food and even faster internet connections, dating for many people has become “speed dating”. Many dating couples want to spice up their relationship with some new romantic ideas and flirting tips. Women love romantic ideas and usually can think of them easier than her male counterpart. In the romantic ideas and flirting tips department, men sometimes struggle. In this area, men are always looking for new ideas.

Men are more prone to fantasize about sexual pleasure, while women fantasize about being seduced by a “Knight on a White Horse”. Being treated with respect, hearing sweet words, and feeling important are ways that men are attracted to. Making your man feel like you’re hero and that you look up to him, will go along way, towards keeping his interest. These ideas will never change, they are just part of the hidden secrets of romantic ideas and flirting tips. It will send shock waves into your singles dating life.

Here are a couple of tips….Send an email during the day to his work and simply say “I am thinking of you all morning. You will be a giant hero when you get home”. When he gets home, meet him at the door in a simple but pretty dress and bare feet. Have him sit on the couch and take off his shoes and rub his feet a bit. He will be floored. These types of things never happen anymore in our fast paced society. You might not even make it to that meatloaf.

Realize that humans are very complex animals. People are looking for someone that they can trust and that they can relax around. Real life is hard enough. Try to find the humor in your life when you are on a date or spending time with your loved one. Help them take the weight of the world off of their shoulder. Try not to burden them all night with all of your problems. When they leave you, they should feel that they have just been rejuvenated. That will keep them thinking about you all day, and have them coming back for more.

The keys to a successful dating program are within your reach. Because there are a lot of fish in the sea, fishing in this dating pool is crowded. Sit down and make a list of romantic ideas. They don’t have to be expensive. How about just making a bubble bath and candles for your special someone. Hardly anyone takes time out like that anymore. Usually, it is just the fact that you tried something creative is enough to get your lovers attention. Have fun!

TAKE COMMAND OF YOUR LOVE LIFE

  • Posted on January 4, 2010 at 9:14 PM

If you are looking a special friend or love and do not have the money to take a position in a paid service, then you could wish to try a free dating service. Some folks really like the free dating sites and what they offer and others don’t. Being aware of what the free dating site offers you will not only save you time and possible disgruntlement.

Do some research and know what they offer so that you end up a happy consumer. Below you will find some information to go over that will help you decide whether a free dating service is for you or not.

Doesn’t free mean that the site is rubbish?

Simply because the dating service is free doesn’t mean that is a rubbish site. Many individuals think that if it is free it has to be no good. One negative thing about a free site is that it seems that many members do not fill out their profiles or do a poor job at it. I have put together a catalogue of some of the potential issues that you may run into when selecting to go with a free dating service.

  • Not enough information in the individual’s profiles
  • You’ll have a hard time finding photos of folks
  • Because it is free you might find more deceitful people there
  • Since the site isn’t paid there might be no real way to confirm the person you are speaking to is even a real person
  • Some people think this is play time and don’t take the site serious

This isn’t always the case, it’s just that you may find yourself having to work much harder in order to find what you’re looking for when you use free dating services. But there are a few ways you can protect yourself against this. Free dating services can be great if you know what to look for.

So how do I know what to go looking for so I am able to avoid the issues you listed above?

It’s easy really; all you have to do is separate the garbage from the people who are more genuine. You can do this by following this simple process.

  • First you want to look for a person’s profile. Is it complete? Or did they just put in a small amount of information and leave it at that? Remember an individual who is serious and looking for that special someone is going to take the time and fill out their profile.
  • How often is this person online at the site? This will also give you a clue if this person is serious or not.
  • Does the person have a photo of themselves up? Sometimes people do not like putting their photos up, but it is a good indication again if they are serious or not.
  • Look for free dating services that are active. This suggests there are a lot of individuals there and Individuals frequent the site. This will make certain you have plenty of options and can basically take the site seriously.

Free dating services are a great way to stick your feet into the river that is dating. But if you don’t want to get swept away by the current be sure to use the life jacket I’ve provided you in this article to help you navigate.

The Best Presents and Gifts for Men

  • Posted on December 30, 2009 at 9:51 AM

Today I will discuss about The Best Presents and Gifts for Men – Watches, Gadgets and Power Tools Are Just A Few Gift Ideas For Him

Women think that they know what men want, but most of the time they would be surprised to hear what they would really like to get for a present. For the next holiday, anniversary or birthday, try one of these gift ideas all men would love.

Gifts Ideas for Men – Cool Gadgets Gifts

All guys tend to love gadgets. Open up a Sharper Image catalog and you should be able to find something cool that he can show his friends, like a speaker dock for his iPod. Men love everything from mind twisting puzzles to high quality headphones to shower mirrors, the more innovative the product, the better.

Gifts Ideas for Men – Remote Control Toys

Men of all ages really love the excitement of getting a new toy, especially on a special morning. Most would enjoy a remote control anything – helicopter, car, off-road vehicle – especially if there are two and he can compete with someone else. Try the Eagle-Eye Radio Controlled Helicopter.

Gifts Ideas for Men – Watches for Men

Every guy needs a watch, and the more components and gadgets on it the better. Look for features such as sub dials for different time zones, alarms, 24-hour military time, underwater depth display, and night reading capabilities. The Armani Exchange Square Stainless Steel watch is expensive looking but less than $200. It is really nice if it was engraved on the back. Be sure to see Personalized Gift Ideas for him.

Gifts Ideas for Men – Power Tools

Most men are either handy or think they are. If he already has a lot of power tools, see if they are all the same brand and then stick to that brand as he obviously likes it. If he doesn’t have any power tools, then it is best to go all out and get him one of the top of the line smaller tools, such as a palm sander, a jigsaw, a cordless drill or cordless screwdriver from a brand like Bosch or DeWalt. You may want to stay away from the larger tools like table saws, radial arm saws, and miter saws as they are quite expensive and have more elaborate functionality, so he may have something specific that he wants in that area.

Gifts Ideas for Men – GPS System

Global positioning systems (GPS) are digital mapping devices that tell how to get from point A to point B. Since men hate asking for directions, they love these. There are portable ones that he can carry on himself or ones that go in the car. Try brands like Mio or TomTom.

Gifts Ideas for Men – Sports Gifts

If he is into any sport, buy him a high end accessory as opposed to the actual equipment which he may prefer to pick for himself. For example, buy a snowboarder top of the line snow goggles from Carrera or Oakley. Buy a golfer the most state-of-the-art golf glove from Mizuno or Footjoy. Get a runner a cool device like the Nike + iPod Sport Kit which lets him track his running time and distance on his iPod.

Gifts Ideas for Men – Swiss Army Knife

All guys love Swiss army knives, and the latest and greatest is always the best way to go. There are ones for every type of man with tools as diverse as butane lighters, gardening pruners, flashlights and pliers.

Gifts Ideas for Men – Childhood Memories

Find out what his favorite television series was as a kid and get the entire series on DVD, or find out what his favorite comic book was and try to get old copies from a vintage comic book store. Alternatively, was there one toy he just loved as a child but does have any more? See if you can find it on eBay.

Whether it is a fun gadget, a practical watch or a favorite series on DVD, all make great gift ideas for all men including dads, husbands, boyfriends, brothers, sons or even groomsmen.

Top 10 Gift Ideas for Men

  • Posted on at 9:48 AM

unique-gifts-for-guysBuying gifts for your children and girlfriends can be relatively easy when compared to finding that right gift for your husband or boyfriend.

All men hope the same thing – that their gifts aren’t going to be the traditional package of socks, underwear or ties. Why not give that special guy in your life something that he will actually use? For this you have to tune into what kind of guy he is and give him something he likes.

Every man is unique. The tech-savvy guy may like a new Blackberry, while the mister fix-it might like a new set of power tools. Just do your best and choose a gift that illustrates to your man that you know him and tuned in to his hobbies and interests.

Sports/Concert Tickets

This is the perfect gift for any man, married, divorced, single, dating, young and old. Every guy loves a night out to watch his favorite sports team win their way to victory, or to see his favorite band play live and up close. You’ll be sure to win him over with this gift.

DVD Player

If your husband spends all his money buying you flowers and clothing and jewelry then why not return the favor? Get him the entire package in DVD systems. A new home theater system is on every guy’s wish list so you can’t go wrong with this gift!

CD Player

Get the latest technology in CD players for the man that loves his music. He’ll appreciate the thought. Furthermore, you can put on some mood setting music and remind your man just how much you appreciate him. It’ll be a night to remember!

Clothing

If your husband or boyfriend needs a little help in the fashion department, then why not get him some new clothing. As a woman, you stay current on all the latest fashion trends and will be able to get your man dressing in style. As long as it’s not another tie, he’ll be happy and will look good too.

Palm Pilot

This is the perfect gift for your busy business man or professional. He’ll never miss another appointment again with his own personal organizer that he can hold in the palm of his hand. And as an added bonus, he will no longer have an excuse for forgetting your birthday or anniversary!

Espresso Machine

For the caffeine addict male in your life, an espresso machine is the perfect idea. Who doesn’t love the idea of having a freshly brewed cup of espresso ready for you every morning from the comfort of your own home? And the lovely aroma it will bring to your home is to die for. Your man will enjoy being able to make espressos any time he wants without sacrificing taste or quality.

Cologne

Cologne is a traditional gift from a woman to a man that never goes out of style. To a man, this gift means that his woman wants him to smell nice because she can’t resist his sexual scent and that he is still desirable to her. Anything that smells this great and makes him feel like an irresistible man is an amazing gift!

DVD Collection

This is gift for the guy that loves watching movies on his high definition big screen TV complete with surround sound and a bowl of popcorn. To a man, this also means that his lady has accepted the fact that he spent thousands of dollars on a TV and will spend thousands of hours in front of it. Some of the best classic movies for men include The Godfather, James Bond and The Sopranos.

Bathrobe

Guys like to feel cozy and comfortable too! A bathrobe is a great gift for the pampered man who loves to lounge around the home on a Sunday morning for a little relaxation time. A luxurious bathrobe will also get him in the mood for some intimate time with one another such as a nice relaxing massage.

Wallets and Accessories

A wallet is the perfect gift for a couple that has just started dating. It shows a guy that she cares about him without going over the top. A wallet will help your man stay organized and stylish, while eliminating that ugly bulge in his back pocket!

Well there you have it! 10 amazing gift ideas that will be sure to please even the pickiest of men! Choose any one or use some in combination. To top it all off, finish the gift giving off with a night of passionate lovemaking – because you know that’s a gift that never goes wrong!

Gifts that Women Really Want

  • Posted on at 9:44 AM

When it comes to shopping for women, there are a couple of traditional gift ideas on which you can rely. Whether you’re shopping for your wife, girlfriend, sister, mother, grandmother, daughter or friend these gift ideas are sure to please any lady. So if you’re looking for a gift for a special lady in your life then check out the top 10 gift ideas that women really want that are perfect for any occasion.

Flowers

Most women adore getting flowers, no matter what the occasion. They especially make a great gift for mothers. Any types of flowers will work, but roses, tulips and orchids are among the favorite. Flowers are a great way of showing someone just how much your appreciate them being in your life. And remember guys, giving your girl flowers for no reason will earn you big points!

Earrings and Pendants

Pendants are another great gift idea because of their versatility. They can be given as a more casual gift, such as a dolphin or flower shaped pendant for a mother or sister. Or they can be given as a more romantic gift, such as a diamond-studded heart pendant for a girlfriend or wife. Pendants come in all shapes, sizes and designs making it easy to find just the right one for that special woman.

Scented Candles and Incense

Women absolutely love the scented candles! Maybe it’s the irresistible aroma they produce or the fact that they create a soothing ambiance and a romantic atmosphere. They come in various sizes, colors and scents and you can find these gifts almost anywhere. Incense and scented candles make great gifts for smaller occasions.

Gift Baskets

When all else fails, go for a gift basket. There are tons of different gift baskets, some containing spa products and others containing chocolates. Gift baskets allow you to give her a little bit of everything, making them perfect for those picky people on your gift list. Couple a gift basket with a bouquet of red roses and your wife or girlfriend will love it!

Cards and Chocolates

Sending someone a card is always a nice way to say thanks or to show that you’ve been thinking about her. It’s a simple way to make her feel appreciated and respected. Compliment the card with a delicious box of chocolates because most women adore getting chocolates. It’s a perfect choice for a romantic night out with your wife or girlfriend.

Cell Phone or Other Latest Gadgets

These are great for the lady that loves to stay connected with the latest gadgets. A new Blackberry with camera, email, and Bluetooth capabilities is perfect for the woman that is on the go. For the girly-girls, pick out one in pink and she’ll be ecstatic! Digital cameras, DVD players and CD players are also well-received and show your lady how much she means to you. Popular brands include Canon, Sony and Samsung.

Clothing

Most woman love to shop, thus they will enjoy getting a new outfit for a gift. If you don’t have a lot of experience picking out women’s clothing then why not take someone shopping with you that knows what kind of clothes your girlfriend or wife likes. In the worst case scenario, a gift card to her favorite boutique or store works just as well.

Designer Purse

Woman love purses almost as much as shoes and clothes. Purses are easier to pick out as a gift because you don’t require any size. Popular bags include Prada, Guess, Gucci and Louis Vuitton. Vibrant colored bags are always fun. If you want to play it safe, then choose a classic leather bag that is brown, black or white.

New Computer

For the big spender who really likes to spoil his lady, then a new desktop computer or laptop will really wow her. Apple computers have really been picking up in popularity. Thus a new iMac desktop computer, Macbook or Macbook Pro laptops are great, high quality choices.

Kitchen Accessories

This gift is for women that enjoy cooking and baking and love being in the kitchen in general. Think of items that will help make tasks easier such as a new Kitchenaid professional stand mixer or mixing bowl sets. New gadgets for the kitchen are also impressive such as an cappuccino machine or a new set of china dishes.

That’s the end of the top 10 gift ideas for women. These are classic gift ideas that women will enjoy receiving on any special occasion. Some are more extravagant while other are simpler, ensuring that you’ll find the right gift not matter what your budget

White Teeth – A MUST for Dating

  • Posted on December 27, 2009 at 6:28 PM

Let’s start with a quick question - What color are your tooth?

  • White
  • Cream
  • Lght Khaki
  • Ecru
  • Pale Brown

If you fall anywhere from cream to pale brown, you can use teeth whitening for the fact – “Bad Teeth & Dating can never go hand in hand!

Now, be Honest – Wouldn’t bad teeth put you off dating him/her?

If you have a bad teeth then you probably always feel really self conscious around people when you smile. None would really be attracted to or date you… well, someone with bad teeth for that matter.

So, What is it about a nice smile that affects people in the way that it does? Advertisers and marketers have long understood the psychological importance of a smile – people flashing their shiny white teeth under a big bright smile appear in almost every ad we see. But while the aesthetic benefits are obvious, there are numerous other reasons to have a good set of teeth – not least of which is in trying to attract a significant other.

For men and women alike, having good oral hygiene can be a very significant quality. Smiles are the most immediate way to make an impression – it shows you’re having a good time, that you like a person, and that you have confidence. And if you spew a pickup line with a dirty mouth, well – that pretty much defeats the purpose, now doesn’t it?

Seriously, when women talk to guys, one of the most noticeably flirtatious gestures is to glance from the eyes to the mouth and back to the eyes. And if their gaze falls on a bunch of crooked yellow teeth, you can bet that when their eyes return to yours they won’t be saying the same thing.

After all, there’s a reason parents sometimes spend tens of thousands of dollars on their kids’ teeth – they know that in the long run, having that perfect smile will help them in everything from their professional to their romantic lives. So if you’re a parent thinking about getting your kids braces – think of it as an investment, rather than an expense.

Personally, I would never even bother even to talk to a man with bad teeth. I and most of my girls think white teeth is what makes us say – “Aww you got a cute smile baby!” and also to go for a kiss “at times” Lol This is true for women aswel. No men would like to date or even check out a girl with bad teeth. Would you? Lol

So, what could be the solution?

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The Stigma of the Pick-Up Artist

  • Posted on December 24, 2009 at 11:16 PM

pick-up-artistThe words “Pick-Up Artist”, “Getting picked up”, “A quick pick-up”, etc all have a NEGATIVE stigma attached to them. The implication is that they’re something sneaky or dishonest about approaching women with the intention of meeting them, and that any man that does this is obviously a sleaze ball. The word “seduction” also has a negative connotation as well, somewhat along the lines of “conning” a woman into sleeping with you. Lastly, there’s the word “Player”, denoting a man who plays games with women’s hearts to get them into bed.

Before you do anything else, you MUST remove from your mind any negative stigmas attached to these concepts. These stigmas are total bullshit, stuff left over from more prudish times when women were chaste and men were seen as being up to no good, trying to “deflower” the poor, poor, victim/woman.

Let’s be clear here: Although the word “pick-up artist/PUA” or “picking up” is used throughout this guide, to “pick up” someone, is to MEET them. People have been meeting their mates in one way or another since the human race began. In almost all cases it involved one or both of the parties sticking their neck out to meet and form a connection. Now of course, there are exceptions. It’s nice that your uncle met his wife because they sat together in a college class, or that a beautiful woman accidentally spilled coffee on your friend and they’re now happily married, but this is rare. Out of all the women on the planet, what do you think the REAL chances are that you’ll meet your perfect mate completely by chance? Not good at all (although Hollywood movies and Oprah will have you believe otherwise).

In fact, the “pick-up artist” deserves MORE respect than someone who “stumbled onto his wife”. The pick-up artist, the one relentlessly and fearlessly approaching women, meeting a LOT of people and forming a LOT of connections, is actively making an effort at finding the right woman for him (or at least building a skill-set so that he knows what to do when he finds her). He’s grabbing his cojones and going out on the hunt. In caveman times this guy would be the one dragging a buffalo home for supper every night, while the rest would wait for an old buffalo to fall over dead at their feet.

The word “seduction” also has a negative stigma, most likely because of the outdated beliefs in feminine chastity. The truth is that women WANT to be seduced. It’s up to the man to take the lead, and up to the woman to playfully resist and throw up obstacles, and give in if the man is successful in demonstrating his value to her. It’s part of courtship, and always will be.

As for the word “player”, granted there are men out there who “play” women, as in con them into bed through lies and false promises. But just as fish have their mating dances, peacocks have their displays, and elk have their masculine posturing, humans have their own courtship rituals. The slang for these rituals is “The Game”, and everyone out to meet a mate is technically a “player” in the game. Women play games all the time, but it’s not malicious—they’re just playing their part in that courtship ritual. We men need to play the game too, and this doesn’t necessarily involve breaking a woman’s heart or tricking her. It just means playing our role in the courtship ritual with our own techniques and
knowledge of the rules.

As with any social situation, it all comes down to this: Be fair in your dealings with people, and you’ll be beyond reproach. Don’t let a silly label make you feel guilty.

Five (5) Dating Tips for Women

  • Posted on December 19, 2009 at 1:55 PM
  1. Be creative when choosing a username. It is important that your username stands out from the rest.
  2. The idea of your profile and title tag is to capture male attention, so be flirtatious, create fun, kinky content and show off your sense of humour.
  3. It is scientifically proven that men are visual creatures, so include as many photos of yourself, especially a facial and body shot.
  4. Keep your messages and profile content not too short and not too long. Be direct, a little subtle and to the point. Do not tease or beat too much around the bush.
  5. If you do receive a message, it is only fair and courteous that you try and respond in a timely manner whether you are interested or not. It will also show others that you are a sincere member.

Dating Objectives – What Do You Want From Romance?

  • Posted on at 1:52 PM

dating-objectivesMost people believe that the soul-mate they long for is out there, somewhere, waiting for them. That person could be online, in the local bar or folding clothes at the local laundromat. The thing about love is that you just never know who you are going to bump into next on the road to romance.

Many of us succumb to a kind of panic when we make it our goal to find a new lover or partner. We figure that the first person who comes along and pays a little attention to us might have been sent to us by fate. We settle for less, meaning a completely appropriate partner, simply because we fear that the person we are sort of with might be the last person on earth who will ever be interested in us.

Before you start dating or looking for a marriage partner, it is important to develop a list of goals. What do you intend to do with your own life in the near future? What qualities or characteristics must a person possess in order to augment your progress? By valuing and developing your own goals and emphasizing your own distinctive qualities you will develop a confidence and self-reliance that others find attractive.

Although it’s true that the only way to meet new people is to socialize, many people make the mistake of thinking they have to do something unusual or off the beaten path in order to meet new people. If you are into heavy metal, don’t sign up for square dancing lessons. Do what you love and a partner who shares your interests usually shows up sooner or later.

When you make a list of goals of what you find attractive about someone else it is important to note to yourself if you possess these same qualities. If love is a deal where you are bringing an offer to a table, just exactly what is it that you have to offer other people?

Do you offer a potential partner a needy, desperate person who is looking for someone to pay the rent? Make a list of all the good reasons why someone should go out with you and emphasize those qualities.

Finding a partner is not about filling a void in your life, especially if that hole is a gap of personal insecurity waiting to be filled with flattery and approval from the opposite sex.

By choosing to work on your issues and becoming as whole and emotionally healthy as possible you gain the emotional strength to break old relationship patterns and meet someone different. One way to do this is to decide you will be happy in life, with or without a partner.

Once you have cleared your emotional clutter from your life, and that includes throwing out your ex’s belongings and getting a makeover, start to determine what qualities you are looking for in a partner.

Suggestions as to what these qualities might include the following:

I am looking for a person with high-self esteem. The person must be self-sufficient. The person must be emotionally available. The person must be over their past. The person must not have a history of alcoholism, addiction or manic depression. The person must be committed to building a future with me.

You may feel ready for a relationship, but sometimes the person we are smitten with is not. Let’s say you are dating someone for a while yet you still feel you are receiving mixed messages from them with regards to the path the relationship may take in the future. The only way to clear this up is to sit down with this person and ask them questions.

Do you love me? Are you ready for a committed relationship? Where do you see us six months down the line? How about one year from now? Do you see me in your future three years from now?

It is important to be honest, not only with yourself, but also with your potential partner. Discuss with each other your dreams, goals, lifestyles, hobbies, finances, religious and political beliefs, and whether or not children are in the picture. Through this investigative process you will find out whether or not you are truly compatible. Compatibility is not just about laughing at the same jokes or liking the same movies. It is about sharing intentions. That is why so many couples who seem to be opposites in terms of their personal tastes can still create a thriving relationship.

Just a note that nobody likes to be interrogated or quizzed in this manner on a first date. Save the quiz for someone you care about and who you have dated for about three months.

Remember that the first date you have is a bit like a job interview. Some people do really well in interviews and others perform better once they are on the job. If you feel attracted to someone but are uncertain about whether or not, try a second or third date. If it doesn’t work out, so what? You have learned something more about what you don’t want in terms of relationship.

When it comes to finding a soul mate, time is still your best friend. Many people who are just getting back into the dating scene flounder horribly simply because they take rejections and bad experiences too personally. They see another’s behavior as a judgement or reflection on them.

You as well as the other person are “allowed” to let go of a relationship that is not working out. Letting go is not only the courageous thing to do, it is also the right thing to do. Otherwise you are settling for less in your life.

The entire purpose of making a list of qualities that you want in another person and sticking to it, is to teach you how to “settle for more” in romance.

Warnings – How to Impress Your Date

  • Posted on December 13, 2009 at 2:43 PM

dating-warningThese are the four major warnings you should take a note of when you are wanting to impress your date. These may sound simple but definitely worth being cautious about.

  • A major cause for rejection is talking too much about past relationships.
  • Do not get drunk or lose control of yourself.
  • Do not get into a heated discussion over religion, politics, or money. This is not the time for it. Surely it is acceptable to let them know some of your beliefs and opinions at some point, but not right away.
  • Try not to focus on their flaws. There is a reason you asked your date out in the first place. Focus on their good qualities.

9 Tips on How to Impress Your Date

  • Posted on at 2:41 PM

Dating-TipsHere are nine (9) Useful Tips on How to Impress your Date

  1. If you have one of those silent moments, just drop in a quote from a famous person to make her laugh or ask her what she thinks about it. Memorise one or two key quotes.
  2. If you really want to impress your date, try not to take them to a bar on a first date. They might not feel 100% comfortable with it, and may not hold alcohol very well. You may have the same problem. Try a coffee shop; it affords you both a chance to talk and get to know each other a little better. Dinner could be nice, but probably better for a second or third date. Movies are nice, too, but allow for little conversation time. Save the movie for a second or third date as well, and that way during the movie you can let them lean against you or get closer, without feeling uncomfortable about it.
  3. For a first kiss, do not try to swallow their face. Leave a lasting positive impression by some eye contact, perhaps a little bit of tasteful and gentle touching.
  4. Do not speed when driving with your date. They will not be impressed. People are more comfortable when they are not expecting to fly through your windshield.
  5. Do not reach for very sexual parts of your date’s body immediately. If you want to make some relatively early physical contacts, reach for their hand, hair, perhaps the neck but within reason, or back.
  6. Try to adjust the temperature in your car or house to accommodate your date. Do not suffer but do not be inconsiderate, either. It is best for your date to be comfortable when they are in your environment.
  7. If your date has any pets, you don’t have to pick them up or play with them right away, but don’t reject the animal immediately. However, be honest with them if you are allergic. Better safe than sorry.
  8. It is generally a good idea to get to know your date’s parents a bit if possible and try to make a decent impression.
  9. Important – if you say you are going to call your date, call them. In addition, try not to be late to dates.

9 Steps How to Impress Your Date

  • Posted on at 2:34 PM

steps-how-to-impress-your-dateHere’s how to impress a date without looking overzealous, pompous, or awkward. Anyone can do it, provided you have confidence in yourself. I will also help to bring her flowers, to show her how special you feel she is.

  1. Remember who you are, and remember who you are trying to impress. Do not try to be someone else, because your fraudulence will shine through.
  2. Hold his/her attention with funny anecdotes and stories, but no corny jokes. It may lead to an awkward moment. Laughing often breaks the ice, and everyone loves someone with a sense of humor. Most people love funny stories, but nothing too dirty, especially on a first date.
  3. Dress and look sophisticated. Unless you are taking her to the beach, you probably should not be wearing flip-flops or shorts on a first date. No matter what you do for a living, let her know that you enjoy what you do and take pride in it. Don’t be too boastful – people usually find that to be rude and offensive.
  4. Do not complain about everything. Family, friends, work, boss, car, weather, taxes, and gasoline prices should stay out of the conversation. Instead, try to smile and let them know that you are a fun person – not someone boring who they have to talk to.
  5. Buy her flowers. Girls love to receive them. If you want to get her something small instead, buy a candle or a picture frame (not with your picture in it). You want her to know that you were thinking about them while you were apart and that you remember what they like. Just don’t go overboard.
  6. Be courteous. Hold the door and, help her with her coat, pull out chairs, do not interrupt her, do not talk on the cellphone on a date, and do not look at other people in the room.
  7. Ask her about herself. Try not to be too nosy – don’t ask any personal questions. Make her feel good about her career, hobbies, interests, and opinions. Listen attentively, as well. People generally hate it when they get asked the same question twice because it tells them that you were not listening the first time. Do not pry into personal matters, and do not tell about private matters in your life.
  8. Compliment her. Tell her she looks lovely, smells good, is intelligent, have a beautiful house – anything that will make her smile. It counts.
  9. Talk about your interests and be relatively open with them. Talk about her interests as well, and try to focus on mutual interests, since both of you will be able to contribute. Who knows? She may like the things you like and know a lot more about it than you thought they would. What about history, cars, music, movies? Your date may very well share some of your interests, and it could make for a great conversation and allow you both to find some common ground.

Why Men Fail with Woman?

  • Posted on December 8, 2009 at 12:42 PM

why-men-failHere are the Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women and How to make sure YOU Avoid every one of these Deadly Common Mistakes…

MISTAKE #1: Being Mr “Nice Guy”

Have you ever observed that the really hot women never seem to gravitate to the “nice” guys? Of course you have. Just like I have, I’m sure you’ve had hot female friends that always seemed to date “jerks”… but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU. What’s going on here? It’s actually very simple…Women don’t base their choices of men on how “nice” a guy is. They decide to date them based on a deep, intense, GUT FEELING. And do you know what? As much as being nice seems to be the right thing to do, it doesn’t give women that powerful feeling of attraction. And women will not CHOOSE you. I understand that this seems counter-intuitive and might be hard to accept, but seriously – LISTEN TO ME! Until you accept this as a reality and start acting on it, you’ll never be the Don Juan with women you wanted to be.

MISTAKE #2: “Convincing Her To Like You”

Have a think about situations where you’ve heard or seen a guy that REALLY likes a woman. And you can see that she’s just not interested. What do they do? They try to convince the women and change their mind. Well, here’s the secret – You can NEVER change how a women FEELS when it boils down to attraction. Absolutely NEVER. Its impossible to convince a women to feel differently using your well honed logic and reasoning skills. Feelings are never logical, and your arguments will fall by the roadside. But unfortunately, we all do it. This is a situation, where unfortunately it won’t work. When you know you’re beaten, move on – don’t waste anymore time. Trying to wear a woman down will be unsatisfying for both parties.

MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her For some Approval Or Permission

In our quest to please women (which we wrongly think will make them like us), us men are always doing things to get a woman’s “approval” or “permission”. Another TERRIBLE idea. Women are NEVER attracted to the types of guys who kiss up to them… EVER. Don’t misunderstand me here. You shouldn’t treat a woman POORLY (ie treat them mean keep them keen) to make her like you. But if you believe that treating a woman well means “always getting her approval and permission for things”, think again. Women actually get PISSED OFF at men who seek their approval. Its another of these dominance things. Don’t believe me? Just ask any attractive woman if soft guys who chase them around and want their approval are sexy…

MISTAKE #4: Buying Her Affection With Food And Gifts

So many times have men taken their dates out for a nice dinner, bought them jelly beans and given her flowers at the door, only to have them REJECT them for someone who in their eyes treat them far worse. If you’re like me, then you’ve had it happen a LOT. Well guess what? It’s only HUMAN NATURE when this happens…That’s right, I said HUMAN NATURE. When you do these things, you send a clear signal: “I don’t think you’ll like me for who I am, so I’m going to try to buy your attention and affection”. Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That’s right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION.

MISTAKE #5: Sharing “How You Feel”

Too Early In The Relationship With Her Men should never share how they “feel” too early in the relationship. Although there are meny attractive women, each of them would get approached many times a day, and receive LOTS of attention from men. A hot woman probably gets approached SEVERAL TIMES A DAY by men who are interested. This translates into multiple times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month. And guess what? Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men. That’s right. They have EXPERIENCE. They know what to expect. And there is one thing that really turns hot women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying “You know, I really, REALLY like you” after one or two dates. This signals to the woman that you’re just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast… and can’t control themselves. Don’t do it. Sit back. Relax. There’s a much better way…

MISTAKE #6: Not “Getting” How Attraction Works For Women

Women and men have very different factors when it comes to deciding ATTRACTION. You will need to accept this before you move on. Deal with it. When a man sees a sexy women, there is an immediate sexual attraction. But is this the same for women? OF COURSE NOT! After studying this topic for quite some time now, I can tell you that women usually have their “attraction mechanisms” triggered by things OTHER than looks. How many times have you seen attractive women with average or unattractive men? Now think of the times you’ve seen this the other way around. Think about it Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men… and they’re attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone. If you know how to use your body language and communicate correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman. But it’s not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this. And ANY guy can learn how…

MISTAKE #7: Money and Looks does not equal success

A common mistakes that guys make is throwing in the towel before they’ve even begun… because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money… or guys who are a certain height… or guys who spend their days at the gym. And sure, there will always be some women who are only interested in these things. But MOST women are far more interested in a man’s personality than his pectorals or his pocketbook. There are some personality traits that attract women like bees to honey…And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU will be one of these guys. YOU DO NOT have to “settle” for a woman just because you aren’t rich, tall, or handsome. Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a beautiful, sexy young woman.

MISTAKE #8: Losing the power

Earlier I eluded that it’s a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission. Well, another tactic that a lot of guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to attractive women. In a different way of thinking, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants. Another terrible idea…Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over… Women aren’t attracted to SOFTIES!

MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing EXACTLY What To Do In Each Type Of Situation With Women

Now I’m going to blow you away…A woman will ALWAYS know what you’re thinking. Women are about EIGHT TIMES better than men at reading body language. That’s eight TIMES. I know, it might be difficult to comprehend. Take this example: if you’re on a date with a woman, and you are thinking of kissing her, she will knows. And if you don’t know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting all nervous, she won’t help! She will LET you squirm. And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating…Approaching a woman, getting her digits, asking her to dinner, kissing her, getting to 3rd base… everything. If you don’t know what to do in each situation, you will probably stuff it up… and LOSE THE GAME. And you KNOW this. It is VERY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next with a
beautiful girl… from the first meeting, all the way to the boudoir.

MISTAKE #10: Not Getting HELP This is the biggest mistake of all.

This is the mistake that keeps us guys from EVER having the kind of success with women that they truly want. I know, men don’t like to make themselves look like we don’t have all the answers. We don’t want to ask for help. Hey, I’ve been right there myself. Let me tell you a little about me and how I figured out how to be successful with women…About eight years ago I became sick of the fact that I didn’t really know how to
approach, meet, and obtain dates with women that I was attracted to. It frustrated the hell out of me. One night I was out with my friend, and I saw a beautiful woman I wanted to ask to dinner, but I just couldn’t get up the courage to do it. I can still remember that night clearly because it changed my world… right at that instance I made the decision to do whatever it took to learn how to be successful with women and dating. Well, after lots of hard work, studying, reading and trying all kinds of silly things, I finally figured it all out. I can now approach just about any woman and get her number almost instantly. I’ve dated bikini models, I’ve dated actresses, and I’ve dated nice, normal, regular next door type of girls as well. It has been a very rewarding experience. I no longer feel that sick, insecure feeling… like I don’t know how to meet women… and I might wind up alone. I know that anytime, anywhere, I can go out and meet attractive women.

Cheap Date Ideas That Won’t Make You Look Cheap!

  • Posted on December 7, 2009 at 10:03 PM

cheap-date-ideasDating during these tough economic times can be expensive. You can still impress without having to overdraw your bank account. Here are some date ideas that you can do for less than $20.

1. Hit the great outdoors

Nature offers us so many places to enjoy a lot of the time for no charge whatsoever. Take her to the beach for some fun in the sun, on a trek through a local reserve or on a picnic by a stream or waterfall. Pair this with a simple picnic hamper and you will have won her over.

2. Play chef for the night

The internet is full of free recipes from every corner of the globe. Find out what type of cuisine gets her mouth watering and plan to cook her something that will excite. You can either do it by yourself or together. Some women love shopping for food, assisting with the preparation and cooking. You can share the total experience together and enjoy the fruits of your labour.

3. Get some culture

Many cities have free events especially over the weekends and in the evenings. Book readings, street theatre and comedy shows are just some easy to find entertainment ideas. All you have to do is a quick search you local info guides.

4. Be do-gooders

There are countless charities around that would love for you to offer your time. Volunteer at the local animal shelter or nursing home for a warm fuzzy feeling that you can share together.

5. Reinvent the movies

Get a friend over and move your TV out of your lounge room and into a new environment. Grab a DVD and you can be sharing popcorn and a fantastic night with your date enjoying a movie under the stars in your garden.

6. Child’s play

Many women love kids. Offering to babysit a niece, nephew or friend’s kid can be a fun way to spend your day. But make sure your date is someone who likes kids otherwise the idea is doomed! It also gives you an excuse to play in the sandpit and show off how high you can ride the local swing.

7. Satisfy her sweet tooth

Girls love chocolate. You can make it an adventure to discover some quaint dessert or candy stores. A cupcake or cookies whilst sitting in your local park is a cheap and easy way to impress.

8. Get educated

Many museums and art galleries have free entry. Try and pick one that suits her interest. Some girls detest paintings while abstract sculptures might get them excited.

9. Board games

Most of us were brought up with board games in the pre internet/ Nintendo/ Playstation era. Playing Scrabble, checkers and Monopoly often brings back fun memories of summer break and school holidays. Warning: be careful not to scare her if you have an ultracompetitive personality.

10. Take a tour of a local brewery or winery

Many wineries are set in beautiful green vineyards and offer free wine tastings. This is the picturesque backdrop to a perfect afternoon. These are just some ideas that will keep you entertained with little financial outlay. It just goes to show that when it comes to fun dating ideas, a little planning and imagination can go a long way.