How to Date 101 A Beginner's Guide on How to Date

Guide to Great Sex

Almost everyone enjoys sex, and getting a guide to great sex can make it even more enjoyable. So if you’re one of those people who do enjoy sex, but are looking to get a little more out of it or add a little more to it, then this guide could be just the thing you need.

With the guide you could add all sorts of things to your arsenal, such as different physical touches that are proven to turn the heat up. There really isn’t a limit to how much you can use and add, other than the limits you set for yourself. Don’t be bashful about it, everyone has limits and it’s important to know yours. Stretching those limits a bit though can be a lot of fun and lead to some really dreamy bouts of sex. The kind of sex that leaves you sweaty, panting, and wanting to curl up like a contented cat. The kind that makes you want to do it all over again just as soon as you gather enough energy and air to do so. Now we all know that just about anyone who has sex wants to have that kind of sex.

It doesn’t matter if it’s the how, sweaty, lusty sex, or the soft, dreamy kind. If it leaves you wanting to repeat it, and your partner is just as satisfied then that’s what you want. Finding out just how you can go about making that kind of sex a reality is possible with the guide to great sex. Even if you are having good sex right now, you might still want to get this guide. It’s possible that this guide could just add that extra spark to the fire.

We all know how it is with fires. If you don’t tend them and see to it that the flames are well fed and banked; then the fire goes out. Adding this guide to your arsenal for sex might just help you keep that flame going strong. This guide isn’t some magic card that will save your relationship, but it might be able to help you save or improve it on at least one level.

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Love Making Ideas

Making love is something almost everyone enjoys and getting a few pointers could add that little bit of heat or spice to your relationship. Sex is wonderful and it can be a lot of fun, but making love can add some different flavors to your sexual interactions.

Having a fulfilling sex-life is what everyone who has sex wants. There are many different ways of accomplishing this from different partners or scenarios to the use of different toys. Sometimes adding a little bit more heat to the fire is as easy as some creative ideas. It could be something as simple as picking a different spot to make love or suggesting some different positions to make love in. Love making ideas don’t have to be difficult or overly entailed to make a difference. Try to change it up a bit from week to week.

Of course you may find some lovemaking ideas that would seem a bit extreme. For instance, using a blindfold or the use of bindings to add a little bit to your love play. These may seem extreme to some people. The trick is finding some that appeal to you and then talking it over with your partner as well to see if they are something that sparks them too. You would be surprised what your partner has to say. Many people don’t bring it up if they think they will be rejected. Don’t be afraid to start out simple. Sometimes the simple things can really work, but if you find something that really turns you on you should mention it. Yes, mention it even if it’s something that seems a little extreme. It might be that your partner just has to get use to the idea of it, or it could be something that you work towards together. If it really turns you on and the thought of it arouses you, see if you partner might also be interested. Maybe you don’t need to go full out, but a little bit of spanking or something different would lead you to more creative things.

As I said before, there are many different levels of love making ideas that could work. You need to take the time to think them through to find the ones that would make the most impact in your relationship. Being honest with yourself, and your partner, is another must. If you don’t really like the idea of something, and choose to go along with it because they suggested it; chances are neither of you will enjoy the experience.

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SEX – Once you’re under its power, you’re a captive for life. It starts when you’re young. When you’re a teenager and your hormones are surging, almost everything you do is connected to sex in one way or another. And although your sexual voltage goes down a notch or two as you get older,
many of your daily activities are still influenced by sex.

• You take a shower in the morning and do your hair to increase your sexual attractiveness.
• You choose clothes that will draw the attention of other people.
• You send sexual messages with your body language, from the way you walk to the angle you hold your head.

And it doesn’t matter whether you’re single or married, young or old, all of us are interested in how the opposite sex reacts to the image we project. We want to be noticed. We want to know that we can still attract someone, even if we’ve been monogamously involved in a relationship for 50 years.

I here will give you a brief introduction in Sex 101, so that you and I will be clear about what I mean when I talk about sex. Although sex hasn’t changed much since men and women emerged from the cave, today’s sexual environment is open to confusion, so let’s first covers the basics.

So, What is SEX anyway?

Is sex just the way we differentiate ourselves, male and female? Or is it the means by which we reproduce? Is it a yearning that makes us go a bit crazy until we can satisfy those urges? Or could it be the key to exchanging extreme pleasure? Maybe it’s a way of cementing a relationship. What makes sex so amazing is that it’s all of those, and more.

We have special organs that are made to have sex; they fit together and have many nerve endings so as to make sex pleasurable. But sex is really a whole body experience, from your brain right down to your toes. And becoming a good sex partner means that you have to understand how to fit all those parts together.

Every generation believes that it’s the first one to have discovered the pleasures of sex, and yet none of us would be here if it weren’t for the sex lives of the previous generation. Even if it’s too much to imagine your parents and grandparents having sex, just give them a tip of the old hat.

You can have sex many different ways, and yet the outcome of sex, the satisfaction that comes from having an orgasm, is the goal of each of them. (Of course, if your only aim is to make a baby, then the pleasurable aspects become secondary.) Part of the mystery of sex is why so many paths lead to this one end.

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When I started to study pick-up and seduction, I didn’t quite know where to start. I felt a little dishonest, dare I say SLEAZY, about the whole idea of using “tricks” to improve my chances. I realized eventually that such moral dilemmas would have to be worked out in order for me to be congruent, and have any success in the field at all. From what I’ve seen most people out there are decent, moral people with a conscience, so I think that a lot of people in this game have at some point or another felt this way. I’d like to lay out the thinking that got me over this dilemma, in the hopes that anyone else struggling with the same problem might be able to iron out this kink in their inner game.

First of all, realize that there’s nothing wrong with having to learn tactics to meet and seduce a partner. Most men are absolutely CLUELESS in this area, and it’s not entirely their fault. A lot of this has to do with being raised by a women, and perhaps their father did not give them any information in this area. Women, on the other hand, grow up reading Seventeen magazine, watching talk shows, watching soaps, and focusing more on interpersonal relationships than men. By the time they’re adults they have a whole array of techniques and strategies to tease, hook, and trap a man. They become MASTERS (mistresses?) of manipulation of the opposite sex. Until the Internet came along, men didn’t have anything like Cosmo or Sex In The City to teach them the finer points of meeting and choosing a mate. So the fact that you’re learning techniques to be able to seduce doesn’t make you less of a man; it just means that you’re catching up to a womens extensive experience, and leveling the playing field.

Another important step is to remove from your mind any negative connotations with the idea of manipulation. Advertising tries to manipulate us to buy soft drinks and the latest clothes. You try to manipulate your friends to go see the movie that YOU want to see. The act of manipulation (and the technology/techniques we use in our case to do it) is morally NEUTRAL; it’s just the context under which it’s done which makes it good or bad. For example, a salesman manipulates you into buying a product, which is his job. You’re happy with the product you bought, and he’s happy with the commission he made. Where’s the harm?

You may also have a problem assuming the techniques and the seduction mindset into your personality, thinking that the methods just aren’t YOU and that it presents a “fake” you. Consider this: Let’s say you’re an engineer. Were you an engineer from birth? Of course not. You had to study math and the sciences in high school, and then pursue higher education to get an engineering degree. It took years but now, YOU are an engineer! And so it is with seduction. If you continue learning new material and field-testing it, eventually it’ll become YOU. Realize also that a woman out on the town in flashy, skin-tight clothes and painstakingly-applied makeup is NOT “her”. “Her” is the girl who 5 hours earlier was standing in front of her mirror miserable and panicking because she was having a bad hair day. The heels, the make-up, the confident air, ALL of these are tools to make herself appear more attractive to the opposite sex. So don’t feel guilty or awkward when using “personality tools” of your own to achieve the same result.

Most importantly, if you value yourself and your life as being important in the grand scheme of things (and you SHOULD, since it’s YOUR life), then you should also believe that you deserve the very best that life has to offer. This includes finding the very best MATE that you can find. If learning seduction techniques and applying them can improve your chances of meeting the best woman for you out there, then mastering them is one of the noblest undertakings of your life.

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Humans have been having sex since time immemorial, and not much changed as the centuries slid by. Then in the 1960s, the Pill came out, and the sexual revolution was said to begin. But the past 25 years have seen the most major advancements. Many more women who couldn’t have orgasms are now orgasmic. Many older people, particularly men, can have sex into their 90s. People are talking to each other about their sexual needs, and as a result, they’re more satisfied with their sex lives. And although we’ve made progress, more needs to be done.

First of all, millions of young people are just beginning their sexual lives. They need to be taught what to do and how to do it. Secondly, millions of adults are still having sex the way cave men and women did in the Stone Age. For whatever reason, the message that terrific sex is possible hasn’t penetrated. Finally, many people are still derailed by sexual myths.

How people learn about sex has a great deal to do with how well equipped they are to have sex. So where did most of you learn about sex? You learned a little bit from your parents and a little bit at school. But because much of this information was, rightfully, passed on before you were really ready to use it, it may not have meant all that much to you, and so it didn’t totally sink in.

Later on, if you had another class, you probably felt the need to act blase, as if you knew it all, and you may not have bothered to listen. This Catch-22 makes having good sex difficult — you get the information before you need it, and you forget what you learned by the time you do need
it. Or you get the facts so confused that they’re not helpful to you.

Our children are the same way. Often, despite our best efforts as parents, kids are more likely to pay attention to what they hear on the street or in the locker room or at a sleepover. How much of this information is accurate is anybody’s guess.

But even though some of this information is true, it leads only to more confusion, because it doesn’t match the sexual myths that are also out there. And when you’re confused don’t you often end up not paying attention to anything you’ve heard — preferring to trust your instincts? Unfortunately, in sexual matters, trusting your instincts can often lead to problems.

In the end, you let trial and error become the teacher of last resort. And when that happens, not unexpectedly, you can often make serious mistakes — such as becoming pregnant when you don’t intend to be, or catching a sexually transmitted disease, or, at the very least, having a less-than-satisfactory sex life, or going through your entire life never having terrific sex.

In the 21st century, this process of misinformation and confusion can’t continue. In the past, we had rules in place to guide us so that, even if we didn’t understand human sexuality all that well, as long as we followed the rules and got married before having sex, we couldn’t stray too far. Can we? Well, the truth is over the past 40 years, these rules have begun to disintegrate badly. Some people would say the results — millions of unintended pregnancies, millions of single parents, vast numbers of people with sexually transmitted diseases — were predictable.

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A typical first date would be dinner perhaps some drinks, maybe catch a movie and then you both go home, sound familiar? This is what 99.9% of men plan out for a first date. So what’s wrong with this? Well let’s take a look at each different scenario. Take meeting someone for dinner. It sounds wonderful, you know for sure that you both eat so why not go for dinner? Usually on first date the two parties don’t know each
other very well and are going to be somewhat uncomfortable around each other. Then adding in that you have to eat in front of each other adds even more uncomfortableness. Since you’re not doing anything but eating the conversation could and probably will sway towards the boring side leading to awkward pauses and so on. So dinner is out, what about the movie? This is probably the stupidest thing you could do on a first date
because you’re not going to be able to talk to each other. You’re not going to know her and she’s not going to know you any better then if you’d just met on the street. There’s nothing more awkward then sitting next to someone who you’re on a first date with and not talking to them for two hours and then getting out of the movie and your both thinking “okay so what now?”

So now that you know you can’t take her to a movie or out to dinner then what do you do? Glad you asked. Here is the top secret method to making all your first dates a raging success make it FUN! I can’t stress that fact enough!! Do something that is fun and something that she has probably never done on a first date. The key in all of this is to stand out from the rest of the pack. Every guy takes her to dinner and the movies, but if you’re creative, you’ll be the date she never forgets.

Here are some great Date Ideas:

• Bingo /li>
• Ballroom Dance lessons (salsa, etc)
• Art Lesson
• Pottery Making
• Laser Tag
• Hiking
• Cooking Dinner (both must be active)
• Puzzle Night and Wine (Low Key) Must be the right type of girl
• Sporting Event
• Hookah Bar
• Picnic in a park
• Wine tasting
• Rock climbing
• Build a kite together
• Ice Skating
• Boating

Here are some tips to keep in mind while planning your date:

• Don’t tell her what you’re doing. Women love surprises and when she doesn’t know what’s going to be happening she’ll be thinking about it all the time leading up until the date and thus be thinking about you all the time, which is a good thing.
• Make the date last around 1- 2 hours You don’t want to drag the date on. If it’s going well you can always decide to do something else together but it’s a good rule of thumb to always leave her wanting more.
• Always have an out If the date starts to go bad. Have some sort of an escape plan. For example have your buddy text you at a certain time and that gives you the option of making up a story about some emergency if the date is heading in the wrong direction.
• Always go for the kiss at some point during the date. Not too soon, but maybe about 3/4 of the way thru the date. Don’t try to stick your tongue down her throat but if you reach over and kiss her sweetly on the cheek, she will know that you like her and that gives her some time to prepare emotionally for the first kiss. Many women also like to be asked first before the first kiss. “May I kiss you? is just fine.
• Scope out the date place. Make yourself familiar with the date location and surroundings. Let her know that you are concerned about her safety and that you will protect her if she is in an unknown place. You should also be familiar with whatever activity you decide to do. For example if you’re going to fly a kite make sure you know how to fly a kite. If you don’t, just make it part of the fun, that you are going to learn something new together as a couple. It builds a bonding experience, when you take the time to learn something together and you both get to be beginners. It gives you lots of time to converse, and get to know each other. /li>
• If your deciding where to go (which you should) and it costs money you should at least have enough money to pay for her. Women still like to be with a gentleman and it is a goes to show that you are not cheap. If you don’t have alot of money, let her know that your budge is lacking but you would still like to still like to spend some time with her. Women like to have frankness and honesty, so if you let her know up front, she will respect that. Then just take her on a picnic or something, but then the focus is on the two of you, and she will appreciate that. Don’t leave a cheap tip for the waitress if you go out to dinner, because she will know that that is how you treat others, and will know that eventually you will treat her like that.
• Last but not least just make sure you’re having fun because if you’re having fun chances are so is she and by following these simple guidelines you should have no problem scoring the second date! All women appreciate a man who can make her laugh and get her mind off of her problems. Just don’t try so hard that it’s overkill. That just makes her uncomfortable.

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Humans have been having sex since time immemorial, and not much changed as the centuries slid by. Then in the 1960s, the Pill came out, and the sexual revolution was said to begin. But the past 25 years have seen the most major advancements. Many more women who couldn’t have orgasms are now orgasmic. Many older people, particularly men, can have sex into their 90s. People are talking to each other about their sexual needs, and as a result, they’re more satisfied with their sex lives. And although we’ve made progress, more needs to be done.

First of all, millions of young people are just beginning their sexual lives. They need to be taught what to do and how to do it. Secondly, millions of adults are still having sex the way cave men and women did in the Stone Age. For whatever reason, the message that terrific sex is possible hasn’t penetrated. Finally, many people are still derailed by sexual myths.

How people learn about sex has a great deal to do with how well equipped they are to have sex. So where did most of you learn about sex? You learned a little bit from your parents and a little bit at school. But because much of this information was, rightfully, passed on before you were really ready to use it, it may not have meant all that much to you, and so it didn’t totally sink in.

Later on, if you had another class, you probably felt the need to act blasé, as if you knew it all, and you may not have bothered to listen. This Catch-22 makes having good sex difficult — you get the information before you need it, and you forget what you learned by the time you do need
it. Or you get the facts so confused that they’re not helpful to you.

Our children are the same way. Often, despite our best efforts as parents, kids are more likely to pay attention to what they hear on the street or in the locker room or at a sleepover. How much of this information is accurate is anybody’s guess.

But even though some of this information is true, it leads only to more confusion, because it doesn’t match the sexual myths that are also out there. And when you’re confused don’t you often end up not paying attention to anything you’ve heard — preferring to trust your instincts? Unfortunately, in sexual matters, trusting your instincts can often lead to problems.

In the end, you let trial and error become the teacher of last resort. And when that happens, not unexpectedly, you can often make serious mistakes — such as becoming pregnant when you don’t intend to be, or catching a sexually transmitted disease, or, at the very least, having a less-than-satisfactory sex life, or going through your entire life never having terrific sex.

In the 21st century, this process of misinformation and confusion can’t continue. In the past, we had rules in place to guide us so that, even if we didn’t understand human sexuality all that well, as long as we followed the rules and got married before having sex, we couldn’t stray too far. Can we? Well, the truth is over the past 40 years, these rules have begun to disintegrate badly. Some people would say the results — millions of unintended pregnancies, millions of single parents, vast numbers of people with sexually transmitted diseases — were predictable.

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The whole idea is however regardless of the interaction with a woman, whether it’s a 2-minute street pickup or a 2-hour date, there are several phases that you go through for a successful pick-up/seduction:

1. ATTITUDE This is the most important part, and is taken care of BEFORE the interaction. Unless you have the right mindset your efforts at attracting a woman will fail.
2. FIND/OPEN This means preparing yourself, going where the woman is, and opening/approaching her.
3. ATTRACT In this phase, you use techniques to build attraction and sexual tension.
4. QUALIFY This involves showing that you’re in the frame of being selective and that you’re evaluating HER. Can be something as simple as “You seem cool.”
5. RAPPORT This phase involves building trust and rapport through emotionally engaging conversation, cold reading, empathy, etc
6. AMPLIFY In this phase you use techniques to build up the attraction and sexual tension, to an even higher level.
7. CLOSE This phase involves “sealing the deal” (contact close, meet close, kiss close, or sex close)

As an acronym, this is the A-FOAQRAC plan (“folk-rack” for ease of remembering it).

To “phase-shift” means to shift from one of these phases to the next. You don’t HAVE to necessarily go through all of these phases to have success with a woman, and you don’t have to follow the same order, but ideally you should. Obviously you’re going to have to find and open a woman, and some attraction/chemistry will be necessary. You’ll also have to close her at some point (unless you’re just out to practice your game). The other phases are less important, but still have some bearing.

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