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Dating a Russian Woman-Tips to get started

  • Posted on March 13, 2010 at 9:47 AM

HE-IS-interested

Love has taken a backseat in our times, especially when the women you date are interested in building their own careers and making money. With such ambitious minds, romance is not a great possibility. How does one find true love then? Here are some tips for  when you are dating Russian girls.

The first sign that a Russian lady has feelings towards you is if they ask you for your phone number.  If  they expect you to always call her and they never ask for your telephone number in return, then that is not a good sign.  Telephone or alternative voice chats are used primarily to understand her feelings better and what she expects from you. Unlike emails or letters, during a real conversation she will not have the time for selecting words with double meanings,  so you will have a much clearer picture of how she really feels.

If she is serious towards you, and not just calling you because she wants a little excitement, then she will not find excuses for ending the phone call early. Granted, the time difference between the United States and Russia is a huge hurdle to overcome, and sometimes she may need to go to sleep when you are just waking up, but for the most part she shouldn’t be making constant excuses to get off of the phone.

Many russian  women live with their families so she may not feel comfortable speaking in front of them. When you call her, just plan on asking her if it is an opportune time for you  to talk.  You can suggest a keyword or key phrase  both of you can use when the moment is not suitable for her or you to have in depth telephone conversations. The conversation will run much smoother, especially if she gets nervous talking to you while her parents are around.

An easy way out of this situation will be to decide on a mutually convenient time to call. Decide on a time that is not too late for both of you, and also when she will be free to talk. That is an important part of dating Russian girls. You need to plan out times when you can converse with each other freely.

If you plan to visit the Russian girl, you must make plans to stay somewhere near her house as long as you are there. Do not count on being invited to stay at  her house, at least not until you are married. Make some hotel arrangements.

If her parents  like you, they will  may extend an invitation. That is when you will see the abundance of love that is present in the hearts of these seemingly rustic people.

There is no question that with understanding and patience, your Russian lady’s family and friends will understand that your feelings are genuine.  As you build trust between yourself and her, and also the trust of her parents, then they will feel safer,  entrusting their daughters happiness to you, and allowing her to move to your country.

How can I find a Russian Bride

  • Posted on January 16, 2010 at 9:32 PM

The real problem for most men interested in dating Russian women is not actually finding the women willing to give them a shot. The problems come once they start communicating with women they are really interested in learning about, only to find they are one face in a sea of men looking for the attention of these beautiful women. If you are searching for Russian women dating real men like yourself, you will have to learn how to get on her good side and stand out from the others.

You may be wondering exactly how you do this online, but it’s very similar to how you would do it with any other woman that you meet in any other fashion. You just have to unleash your personality and let her really see who you are.

For starters, don’t move too fast. This is true when you are dating women in your everyday life and taking them out on dates, but it’s also true when you first meet a Russian woman online. You don’t want to come off too strong or eager or she may be scared away or simply turned off. A relationship through the internet can move quicker than one might move in the real world, especially if you find someone you just naturally click with and the feelings develop mutually.

Yet, you don’t want to push it or rush things.

For instance, you don’t want to start pushing to visit a woman or asking for her hand in marriage a few days after you start talking to her. Next, really get to know her as a person. You don’t want to welcome just anyone into your life, no matter how lonely you may be right now. Even if you could get a Russian woman to agree to pick up and move to your area of the world, it will only lead to headache and heartache if it is not the right match.

There is more to these women than their appearances, even if that is primarily what you have to go on at first. Start to get to know her as a person and what she is looking for in a man and in life in general. Then ask yourself if she is someone you could see blending into your life. Your last tip is to stick with reality. When meeting Russian women dating men like yourself it’s easy to imagine great changes in your world and the perfect life, but she is looking at your real life right now to determine whether she could really be happy as a part of it. Show her who you really are, what you really want, and how you really live. This is not the time for shows.

Dating Younger Women Tips

  • Posted on January 11, 2010 at 8:47 PM

dating-younger-womenWomen like to be with a person who can make them laugh and also can protect them with maturity. They like people of their age but sometimes women like men who are older than them because they find them matured and intelligent. Most of men also like to date women who are much younger than them. Because they think a younger woman can bring an amazing energy, vibe, and a youthful atmosphere to a man.

Everyone has his or her own opinions. There will be some women who only date guys who are 10 years older than them! Therefore, do not let other people opinions distract you.

Younger girls prefer guys who are older than them, because they will feel that guys who are older than them are more mature. What attract women in older men can be their higher status, confidence, leadership, and many more. Here are some secrets you will find when dating a younger woman.

Younger women do not like to be controlled, as they have just got away from the “claws” of their parents. Give them rooms, and let them come to you, do not force them. Do not interfere or control their lives.

Do not be too serious. Be yourself, but also show them your fun side.  Be cool  and use humor but do not overdo it.  Women that are attracted to older man usually do not over the top silliness.   Women will find that although you are mature in term of age, but you are actually fun to hang out with as you still have  the “young touch”.

Try to find out the qualities, which attract women so you use those skills  Let her come to you, do not chase her. Do not make your  move too early.

Be chivalrous. Open doors, walking on the outside of the curbs, and pulling out chairs for them will make a big impression on  women. When you combine a powerful presence with chivalrous, you will make yourself very attractive to women.

How NOT to Date a Women

  • Posted on December 30, 2009 at 10:02 AM

how-not-to-date-a-womanHave you considered that dinner and then a movie is only one aspect of dating a woman?

  • Going out and doing stuff with the girl.
  • Getting to know her, and all that jazz.

Well, what if I told you that you had the completely WRONG idea about dating?

See, most guys use the concept of “going out” with a girl to mean that there is some romantic ulterior motive there, and that is not always the case.

Let’s go over some of the most common mistakes guys make when “dating” a girl…

Mistake #1: Dates are simply to impress a woman.

Lots of guys think they have something to prove on dates. They “have to get her to like me!” So they’ll try and take her to fancy places to show her a memorable time, and they’ll try and brag about themselves to come off as important.

Mistake #2: Buying your way into the heart of a woman.

This is not true and is a very bad idea, since many women are not concerned about the amount of money you spend on a date. There is no amount of money or any expensive item you can buy that will get a woman interested in you if there is no mutual attraction.

Mistake #3: Activities are meaningless!

Just the sheer act of going out to places with somebody doesn’t mean as much as you think it does. If you do the typical “dinner and a movie” thing, that won’t necessarily get the girl to like you. Spending time together does not always equate to romantic interest.

Mistake #4: Guys can become BORING!

If there are no sparks of chemistry, the date is a dud, this can happen, when men get nervous on their dates. Most often, these men continually talk about ordinary subjects while they show little to none of their sparkling personality. They just go through the motions with hopes of not messing up their date.

Mistake #5: The patterns of failure.

Some men have a preconceived ideal of dating, how they think things should happen, and then they rigidly follow that perception. They may go out on a dinner date, while they ask her all the same questions as their other dates. This eliminates all the spontaneous fun of interacting with the woman.

What does dating a woman mean?

The answer is simple; dating is a means of encouraging and building comfort, attraction and emotional connections. It does not matter how much you spend or where you may go, what does matter is how you build your connection with a woman, while encouraging her feelings for
you.

That is why so many guys can take a girl on a cheap date and sweep her off her feet, and other guys can drop thousands of dollars on really creative dates and get NOWHERE.

You should completely focus on how you can increase your emotional connection with the woman you date.

  • Talk about your shared interests.
  • Talk about your passions.
  • Try and figure out what her hopes and dreams are.

Stay away from boring questions like “where do you work?” Instead, rephrase these questions to be fun and interesting, for instance, ask her: “If you could do anything you wanted, and weren’t bound by the laws of space and time, what would you do?”

Above all, you should just have fun and enjoy yourself! Crack jokes – even if they’re not good. Have fun. Steer the conversation toward subjects she finds interesting. Be curious about who she is. More importantly, never shy away from relationship discussions.

Although many men shy away from approaching the subject of relationships while on a date, you should build the intensity of attraction by building toward that. Be a little wicked by flirting and joking with her, as this will encourage and build the attraction she has for you and then you can move on to the next level of your relationship.

Knowing What You Want

  • Posted on December 24, 2009 at 11:21 PM

know-what-you-wantBefore you can work towards a goal, you have to properly define what that goal is. So if you’re looking for your ideal woman, you have to decide what qualities and values she’s going to have to have to be the one.

You have to come up with your own, but these are mine. KNOW what you want and you’ll be more likely to get it.

  • Adventurous
  • Spontaneous
  • Emotionally Strong
  • Up For A Challenge
  • Bisexual
  • Good Wit (Sarcasm)
  • Sophistication
  • Optimist
  • Not Afraid To Take Chances
  • Still Has A Little Girl Quality About Her

Anti Values:

  • Drama
  • Neediness
  • Indecisiveness
  • Flakiness

However, no matter how much a woman fits your “criteria”, DON’T think about her as a girlfriend. Start by thinking of her as a fun, beautiful, but temporary addition to your life. In other words, just have fun with her, give her no restrictions, don’t box her in, don’t demand anything of her, don’t take anything too seriously, etc. Just laugh with her and have sex with her, take her to movies, be cool around town with her on your arm, etc. If it’s going to get serious, it’ll happen on its own if you just TAKE IT EASY. Most relationships fail because people get too serious too fast, and build up fantasies of the other person that they can’t live up to. The ones that last are the ones where the two parties were at the very least “flirting friends” for a while, or had a physical fling that grew into something more with time.

Beware of women in the “gimme” category, i.e. commitment, amount of time spent, emotional support, talking about what they want to talk about, etc. In other words, THEIR agenda, without considering what you could want. It’s as if they assume that just because they give you sex or attention, somehow you as a man now are getting everything you could want and must give them what they want. A woman who’ll respect your other needs as well as her own, has the potential to be a long-term match.

Why Doesn t He Call

Seven (7) Dating Tips for Men

  • Posted on December 19, 2009 at 1:53 PM
  1. Everyone is going to go after the young girls. So please keep in mind that it does take time to answer all messages. The idea is to be patient and not get discouraged too quickly.
  2. Be proactive and send messages to several women to help increase your chances of getting a response. Consider dating older women as well as younger. Do not be overly selective in your profile descriptions and welcome all visitors. The idea is to attract visitors and receive as many messages as possible. You can afford to be choosy later on.
  3. May your messages sound as interesting and witty as possible. Start with a catchy line and mention something you read in her profile. This will show that you indeed read the profile and are serious in the person.
  4. The most important point in dating tips for guys is to always be honest and truthful. Do not exaggerate about your physical appearance. You will eventually be caught out when you meet and feel rather embarrassed.
  5. Choosing the right name is very important. It is your identity and can express many ideas about you. Choose a username that is not too corny, sleazy or pervasive.
  6. For guys that like to date young girls, confidence and humour is a key element.
  7. For men that like dating older, show respect, responsibility and bear in mind that they love to feel appreciated, desired and alive.

Qualities that Women Love

  • Posted on at 1:26 PM

Qualities that Women LovePlatinum Visa? Big Bank Account? VIP card to high end department stores? Big Muscles? Those are ok but in order to get a woman to feel attracted to you and have sex with you, you need to make her feel good. Look at dating like buying and selling, when you are dating a potential mate you want them to be for example fun, adventurous, stable, little wild, intelligent and have good morals. What do these qualities have in common? They are all positive, nobody would want a woman who is unstable, psychotic, has no interest in your personality and tries to ruin your life because all those qualities are negative.

In order to become a success with women you will have to cultivate positive qualities (sell) that will attract a woman to you.(buy) Now you are probably thinking what those qualities are? So I’m going to go into a small list of what qualities woman cannot help but find attractive in a man.

Sense of Humor:

Sense of humor was rated the number one quality by women second to only to honesty. A man that can make a women laugh can have her instantly attracted to her.

Laughter disarms women’s defenses and drops her guards, making her feel really good and because she is with you, she associates that state with you. If you had to have only one trait from this list having a great sense of humor that can make a girl laugh would be it!

Confidence:

Confidence is very sexy to women because it makes a women feel secure and protected. A confident person is not the kind of person who seeks approval from others but the kind of person who is comfortable in his own skin and surroundings. Women do not like men with huge egos, either. They just do not like wimps. If a women feels validated, and respected by you she will let her guard down. If she feels pretty in your eyes, that makes her feel more sexy and charming. Do not give a women false hope tho, if you are not sincere. Usually, they can see right thru that. Women have sometimes been burned before and they want to feel that they are with someone with integrity. Show her that you have values.

Leadership:

Women are naturally drawn to a dominant male who demonstrates leadership qualities. Leading shows that you are confident in yourself, confident enough to care for others and demonstrate the best course of action for the group. Leading does not mean getting angry and then getting your way, instead being a leader focuses on getting everyone’s input and making a decision in which everyone is happy. This also applies to readily being able to deal with conflict yet remain cool about it. You should try to have an equal balance in making decisions about what happens on the date. Maybe you pick the restaurant and let her pick the movie. Don’t only do the activities you like, but be willing to try something new, if it’s something she would like. You will learn something new and get to see her in a whole new light. Women don’t want to have to make all the decisions about where to do, or what to do. Most women can’t stand it, if you never have an opinion about what to do, and always say “whatever you want to do”.

Truly be sincere in getting to know her. Ask about her hopes and dreams, her family, where she grew up. Let her know that she is an interesting person. All people are interesting, if you only dig deep enough. Don’t be superficial and just try to race to the bedroom.

Why are Woman Attracted to “Him”?

  • Posted on December 17, 2009 at 8:14 PM

why-women-cheatSo I’m below average, don’t have much money, I only drive a Honda but hot women are still attracted to me? How can this be true? Are you crazy? This is true and I’m not crazy, a primary difference between men and women besides our looks is our thinking. Guys think primarily using LOGIC; when we make a decision we map out all the positives, negatives and then analyze the situation before coming to a conclusion and making a decision.

Women on the other hand think primarily using EMOTION which is based on a feeling and as we all know feelings are irrational. For example you had an angry feeling and wanted to kill your boss? But did you? No because a) you analyzed it, thought it through and decided it was going to be bad and b) nobody wants to share a jail cell with a 300 pound guy called Bubba for the rest of your life.

When a woman thinks emotionally she does not analyze stuff like us guys she goes with what feels good at that moment. Have you ever heard a woman say “I like John because he was tall, handsome, sensitive, nurturing and sweet?” Probably never or maybe once, what you usually here from women is “there was just something about him and I couldn’t help but feel attracted.” What this “thing” is, is the ability for a man to understand attraction create it in a woman and make her feel good about herself and in turn she will make you feel very GOOD about yourself. In order to make a woman feel good you need to learn how attraction works.

Who is the man that women love?

  • Posted on at 8:08 PM

what women wantI’m sure you were lead to believe that if you have money, flashy cars and look like Brad Pitt you can get any woman you want and if you are not, you never will! At first I thought damn if only Brad Pitt had long hair I might of stood a chance! In all seriousness this is a great misconception that I experienced early in my life and that many men experience daily, money and fame do help you in getting women but that is not the only way to get a hot woman of your dreams. Whenever I saw a hot women 90% of the time I noticed some rich guy with money.

Like most guys I thought to myself damn I will never have the kind of money he does! But then some days there was that 10% of men that I saw
who were average or horribly below average (I’m talking about pop belly, ripped jeans and no hair) with very hot women. The first thought that came to my mind was he must have a BIG you know what.

But after doing some more research about psychology I realized that women were attracted to men who could make them feel good. So as long as I could mould myself into a man that could make women feel good I could experience the same success as this crew of below average men. Sure money and fame might help but what I found through my research is that women substitute that with the feeling associated with it.

If a woman drove some rich corporate guys Ferrari it would feel great but if me the average joe could make her feel great with my personality I would have the same result and still have a fat wallet at the end of the day! Take that Brad Pitt! In the end I realized that the man women love is the man who can make them feel good.

What Taller Women Will Respond Powerfully To

  • Posted on December 13, 2009 at 3:10 PM

tall.womanOkay, I’m not exactly going to tell you to “stop thinking of yourself as short” and leave it at that. No way. There’s much more to this story. Let’s talk about what women want from men for a second. You’ve heard that confidence attracts, and you’ve heard correctly.

As we’ve found out already, there are no “universal truths”, but this one comes about as close as possible to hitting that mark. So when you are insecure about anything, it’s a strike against you when attracting women.

Naturally, then, if all you can think about is your height “disadvantage” when approaching a taller woman, your issue is going to morph into a full-blown self-fulfilling prophesy.

The mind-blowing part is that a taller woman may indeed be likely to reject you at that point. And yes…it will be because you are shorter than she is. But there’s a crucial nuance to understand here: The rejection won’t be because you are shorter. Rather, it will be because you are insecure about being shorter.

It’s importance to see the difference here. Remember, the taller woman is probably not hung-up on height. When you are confident in yourself and comfortable in your own skin, height is far less likely to even be perceived as an issue.

Now here’s where some true magic can occur. Just because height may not be a woman’s sticking point doesn’t mean she’s without any insecurities at all. Far from it.

In fact, the more beautiful a woman is, the more likely it seems that she’ll have deepseated insecurities. This is likely because she has been pushed and cajoled to an everhigher standard of physical attractiveness all her life.

And the fact is, most of her insecurities would seem highly irrational to you.

Sound familiar?

You bet it does.

Now, let’s build upon this concept by introducing another important truth. It’s true that most guys tend to believe that women are the “choosers” and men are the “chasers”. I hear complaints from men that “attractive women can get any man they want, while we’re left to face rejection” or “women only have to wait around to be asked out, and we have to take all the risk and do all the work.”

Well, what if I told you that I receive e-mails from women all the time who view the world quite differently. In other words, their point of view suggests that men hold the cards and they are left to wait by the phone wondering if he’ll ever call. Or, they go out with a man and have a great time only to be left unsure if he’s ever going to make plans with them again.

In actuality, the one who is in control of his or her dating life is the “chooser”. He or she with the options calls the shots. Portraying yourself as a man who has options when it comes to the women you could potentially choose is a natural outflowing from a genuine sense of self-confidence.

Every approach to a woman is no longer viewed as a “make it or break it” moment. But there’s something more significant that happens as your ability to control your own destiny is recognized by a woman you are communicating with. Your attitude begins to have a positive effect on her. She begins to realize that you are a man who makes his own choices. And she likes it.

As women are often drawn to confidence, they are also often wildly attracted to a man who has strong leadership abilities.

And by definition, through coming forward as assertive enough to choose her, you’ve demonstrated to her exactly the kind of leadership traits that she admires most.

So how about it? Can you be a man who is comfortable in his own skin, doing away with insecurities about height differences?

Do you have the strength to parlay that comfort with self into sheer confidence?

From there, will you boldly accept your leadership over the situation and pronounce yourself a “chooser”? Hopefully the exercises on gaining new perspectives that I’ve shared with you thus far have been valuable in helping you get there. If so, fantastic.

Now, it’s time to take all of that even one step further and be even more of a leader in the sense that you are going to now impart your ability to stand confidently and securely to her. Don’t get me wrong. To be perfectly clear, this isn’t about showering her with empty compliments like countless other guys who are only manipulating her because they want something.

Rather, what this is about is empowering her with an attitude that you appreciate her as she is and—importantly—that you will not tolerate any self-loathing behavior on her part. You reward her for being confident, and speak up when she speaks poorly of herself. Even if meeting her for the first time, you can project confidence as you introduce yourself to her and then simply lead a conversation that allows her to do most of the talking.

Listen carefully for any indication that she’s insecure about anything at all. At that point, firmly but considerately share with her that you believe the rest of the world doesn’t see the negative that she sees. In other words, you can talk to her about exactly what we’ve covered in this report.

At that point your re-framing of how you view yourself and your perception of how women view you has come full circle. By leading the woman into a place where she is empowered to let go of her insecurities, you will have affected her in a way that is irresistibly attractive to women. You will have first shown confidence, then leadership.

What’s more, since your words are genuine, she’ll begin to develop trust for you. At that point she won’t help but view you positively. Quite literally, she will have anchored a better feeling about herself to the feelings you give her when you are around.

Once you get to that level, it seems almost foolish to even think about reverting to selfconsciousness about your own height, doesn’t it?

And indeed, over the course of a hopefully brief amount of time, and with some practice, you will see dramatic results and will thereby eliminate your limiting beliefs about dating taller women forever.

So, How To Date Taller Woman?

  • Posted on at 3:05 PM

dating-taller-womenWe already discussed about Fascinating Taller Women and the Obstacles in Dating Taller Women. Today, we will see about How To Change Your Own Mindset And Approach towards Dating Taller Women.

For many guys who prefer taller women, even the logic presented in the first section isn’t enough to inspire renewed courage. The reason for this has nothing to do with the women themselves.

That’s right, it’s all in OUR heads. Knowing what social stereotypes are, we automatically project preferences upon even the taller women we hope to attract. Those stereotypes get inside our heads and we practically begin to expect that taller women will reject us.

All of this is exacerbated by the very real fact that what we perceive to be our own greatest limitation—our height—is exactly what is at play when approaching and meeting taller women we’d like to date.

Our insecurity is literally magnified by the taller woman standing before us. But here’s a crazy thought that I’d be willing to bet has never occurred to you. Have you ever stopped to think that your limiting belief regarding your height could be the very last thing on the mind of another person who doesn’t have a personal issue with his or her own height?

That’s right. It’s highly probable that anyone—man or woman—who is reasonably tall probably doesn’t even think about height much. If you have a full head of hair, you probably don’t think of baldness much do you? Yet, if you have a friend who is losing his hair he may be all but obsessed with it.

Meanwhile, you may interact with that friend on a regular basis and not even notice that he’s losing his hair.

What if you could get outside your head for a moment and start realizing that others do not necessarily share your own limiting beliefs?

Would that limiting belief’s power over you then start becoming a bit more unreasonable to you?

Recently I met a guy who is shorter than average and had been wearing 3” inserts in his shoes for years. After having spoken to him on the phone for a while and related to him much of what I’m sharing with you in this report, he decided to do away with the inserts once and for all. I was amazed by his resolve. Having discussed the possibility of migrating from 3” to 2” inserts and gradually down to regular shoes, he dismissed that notion and went “cold turkey”…deciding to do away with his insecurity all at once.

The very next day he reported for work at his natural height. And he was shocked that virtually nobody even seemed to notice. The only exception was the one guy at his workplace who was naturally shorter than he. If you think about it, that makes sense. In fact, it validates the notion that the limitingbeliefs we have are the ones involving traits or behaviors we obsess about or consider the most, even in the form of projecting them upon others.

So a major linchpin in the quest to date taller women if you’re a short guy is, ironically enough, to stop seeing yourself first as a short guy. In other words, instead of viewing yourself as a short man, view yourself as simply a man…without potentially negative qualification. In my Next Post, we’ll discover why this is more important than it even appears at first glance.

Next Post: What Taller Women Will Respond Powerffully To

Biggest Obstacle in Dating Taller Women

  • Posted on at 2:54 PM

obstacle-in-dating-taller-womenWe already read about fascinating taller women. In this post, I will tell you about the biggest obstacle most guys have in Dating Taller Women. The very first thought a lot of guys have when they first notice a strikingly beautiful taller woman is that she must only be interested in taller guys. And the logical process at work here is understandable. After all, in the movies leading men are always taller than the women, it seems. Even in real life, it’s relatively rare to find a shorter man with a taller woman walking together hand in hand.

So the only reasonable conclusion that most guys can come to is that taller women don’t have any interest whatsoever in any man who is shorter than they are. And to be sure, there are indeed lots of women of taller stature who absolutely rule out dating shorter men. That’s a fact.

But instead of stopping there and automatically assuming that all taller women must feel that way, let’s look at the matter from a different perspective. Think for a moment about your own personal preferences. For example, you may prefer tall women, hence your interest in this particular report.

What’s more, you may have a penchant for blonde, blue-eyed babes also. In fact, you could be picky enough that you will settle for no less than a woman who has blonde hair, blue eyes and is at least 5’10” or taller. All others need not apply. For a moment, let’s assume for the sake of discussion that what I’ve described is exactly how you feel.

Now let me ask you an important question.

Does your particular taste in women mean that ALL women who don’t fit your criteria are inherently and universally undesirable?

Of course not. For every man with a similar preference in women to yours, there’s another who appreciates a completely different brand of feminine representation.

Take redheads, for example. I’d say about 50% of men tend to be crazy about them, while the other half aren’t so impressed. I’ve noticed this to be a very real source of consternation for even the most unquestionably beautiful redheaded women I have met. Many such women experience very real emotional confusion over this. But no matter how much redheads tend to polarize the male population, a terrific redheaded woman is made no less terrific in the eyes of her admirers.

Meanwhile, no matter what “type” a woman is, even if she’s considered stunningly beautiful by the vast majority of her onlookers there’s always going to be a certain group of guys out there who say, “Thanks but no thanks”. Recently I was perusing a list of the “100 hottest women in the world”. Clearly the editors of that list think a lot differently than I, because most of the women on that list were very different than the kind of woman I’d personally be most attracted to.

For example, if Heidi Klum knocked on my door buck naked, I doubt I’d even be able to become aroused. Seriously. But nonetheless, she was on the list. And here’s the kicker: Were Heidi to ever learn that I wasn’t at all attracted to her, how do you think she would react?

Do you think she would somehow believe she was no longer attractive to any man at all simply because some guy in San Antonio, TX didn’t think so?
Not on your life, man. The thought is actually kind of goofy to even think about, isn’t it?

The reason I related this scenario to you is very basic. Simply put, I can’t count how many guys have called or e-mailed me ruefully recounting experiences with a few women (or even just one woman, in some cases) who expressed disinterest.

Shockingly, those isolated instances caused each respective guy to believe that all women felt the way the one or few who rejected him did.
And worst of all, many times such guys never even have bothered to approach a woman since.

A reasonably high percentage of times I hear such a story repeated, it’s coming from guys who are attracted to taller women. Any time we take the negative opinion of one or a few women as a universal truth, we’ve allowed that opinion to have much more power and dominion in our life than it rightly deserves.

But when you automatically assume that one tall woman’s statement to you that “women don’t like shorter men” is true, you’ve allowed her to take an almost superhuman level of control over your life.

She doesn’t deserve it. Because her opinion is exactly that—and opinion. As we’ve already seen, there is no such thing as “universal truth” when it comes to attraction. So be not deterred by the opinion of a taller woman, even if you find it’s shared by a few others. The few simply cannot speak for every individual woman out there.

Fascinating Taller Women

  • Posted on at 2:48 PM

Fascinating Taller WomenDo you have a fascination with tall women? You know the ones I’m talking about…the leggy, “supermodel” types who look as if they just stepped right off the set of a Cosmo Magazine cover shoot…out of your fantasies and into your real world.

If so, you are certainly not alone. After all, everywhere you look on television, in movies and even at the shopping mall it’s obvious that the tall, skinny woman is the archetype for modern beauty.

But lots of guys in your position are faced with the same challenge: At 5’9”, the average guy (at least in North America) often has to come to grips with the fact that such women are actually taller than he is.

Of course, if you’re on the shorter side of average yourself, the issue becomes even more profound.

So what’s the average guy to do? Can you meet, attract and even date these taller hotties if you so choose, or are they off-limits?

The simple but very real answer is of course you can. All it takes is a distinct mindset and the courage to execute on a plan.

Read my next post to know more on the Obstacles in Dating Taller Women.

10 Things a Man Should Do on the First Date

  • Posted on December 7, 2009 at 9:58 PM

First-Date-TipsWe all know that first impressions count and none more so than on the first date. You’ve already done the hardest part by asking her out on a date, the last thing you want to do is to waste that effort. Here’s a short checklist to help you put your best foot forward.

1. Shower.

Women are clean creatures. No matter what job you do, make sure that you present yourself clean on the first date. It’s true that many women, myself included, love the look of a sweaty, shiny fireman or gym instructor, but not if we have to sit next to them and smell them for two hours over dinner. Also, go lightly on the cologne. Some men think that doubling the cologne with double the attractiveness of the scent. Wrong. I recommend a couple of sprays- one on your neck and one on your chest before you put on your shirt. This way your scent is mild and she will be close enough to smell it without being overpowered.

2. Prepare some conversation.

It’s important on your first date that you have things to talk about. Take the time to think about witty ways to answer the standard questions to answer questions about your job, family etc. It always helps if you can inject a little mystery and humour.

3. Arrive on time.

It’s common courtesy to be punctual. It’s better to arrive early to give yourself time to have a short stroll or a coffee rather than to be late and flustered. Arriving late also shows her that you don’t value her time and there is nothing worse than being covered in sweat from your run from the subway.

4. Be a gentleman.

Make sure you open all doors and let your date enter first. It’s just good manners. So often I have dated guys who have entered a venue first and sat down at the bar only to realise that I am still stuck outside!

5. Be polite to the waiter/ waitress.

Make sure you pick up the bill and tip appropriately. Never use a discount voucher! If she’s not worth paying full price for then you shouldn’t be on a date with her.

6. Maintain eye contact.

Your date might be wearing a low cut top or a necklace that dangles over her chest but it’s so important that your eyes do not go wandering. Get caught staring at her cleavage and she will think you only care about getting her in the sack.

7. Give her compliments.

Try to be as sincere as possible. It helps also to be different to most guys who can only compliment a woman on her looks. For example you could tell her how cute her laugh is, how passionate she is about her hobbies/ life/job or compliment a particular piece of jewellery she is wearing. This shows her that you pay attention and often gives you a conversation starter.

8. Listen to what she has to say.

Women love to talk and it’s so important that you are able to listen. Make sure your date knows you are listening by giving little nods and occasionally paraphrasing and asking questions.

9. Be positive.

There is nothing more unattractive than a whinger.

10. Enjoy yourself.

Have fun spending time getting to know someone new. Every encounter is a potential friendship.

Good luck with your next first date! :-)

What does a Girl look for in a Guy?

  • Posted on December 3, 2009 at 10:18 AM

Couple at park.Ask any girl: What do you look for in a guy?

The first answer is usually: a good sense of humor.

With guys it is an important dating factor, but not quite as vital as with girls.

If you think about it, being funny isn’t easy. It takes good timing, a high degree of intelligence and the ability to ‘read’ people. In fact, you might say it’s evolution at work.

One of the main goals of dating is to get to know the other person. Using the right funny questions can help you steer them into important topics, without making them uncomfortable. For instance, how do they feel about kids?

In this article I will discuss about the use of humor in dating and give you some good funny dating questions. Hopefully they will help you put a smile on your date’s face. Remember, if you are having fun, chances are they are having fun.

Sexual dating humor

I would stay away from this, on the first date, unless it’s going really well. Sexual humor is used to put your date in the right frame of mind, if you think things might end up in the bedroom. Be careful, because if it goes wrong you might end up putting your date off the whole idea.

Funny Online Dating Questions

With online dating you get to chat with the person before you date them. Having read the prospect’s profile, you should prepare some fun dating questions to work into the conversation. If the chatting goes well, you can establish yourself as funloving and funny, before you go on a date.

  • Why did you pick your screen nick?
  • What was your most embarrassing/proudest/scarriest moment? Because it’s online and anonymous you can get much more honest answers to this question.
  • What is your favorite part of your body and why? Clearly this question leaves some room for a naughty answer.
  • If there where 3 things that you could change about yourself, what would they be? Bit of an honesty test there.
  • Do you squeeze the toothpaste from the middle or the end? This question can reveal obsessive compulsive personalities, they go on and on about how to do it right.

Fun dating questions

  • If you where an alien and you could abduct anyone on earth, who would you abduct and why?
  • Can you still say ‘Stick it where the sun don’t shine’, on a nude beach?
  • If you where a fish, what kind of fish would you be?
  • If you where crowned king of the whole world, what would your first royal decree be?
  • What do you like best about being single? This can be a pretty revealing question, in terms of what they are looking for, in a relationship.
  • If you had a time machine and you could go back and change anything, what would it be?
  • If you could pick only one what would you be: attractive, rich or famous?
  • Why can’t you get a tan on your palms?
  • What is the last movie that made you cry? If, you ask it to a girl and then she ask you, yours. Answer it truthfully, having some emotions is a good thing.
  • What do you like to eat to cheer yourself up?
  • Ever been arrested?
  • What kind of puppies do you hate the most?

Romantic dating questions

  • What do you think about public displays of affection?
  • Do you think there is a difference between sexuality and sensuality?
  • Does your heart rule your mind or the other way around?
  • If I was trapped in a burning building, would you run in and save me? Bit of a soft question.

Do you have any other tips? Please feel free to share :-)