How to Date 101 A Beginner's Guide on How to Date

A typical first date would be dinner perhaps some drinks, maybe catch a movie and then you both go home, sound familiar? This is what 99.9% of men plan out for a first date. So what’s wrong with this? Well let’s take a look at each different scenario. Take meeting someone for dinner. It sounds wonderful, you know for sure that you both eat so why not go for dinner? Usually on first date the two parties don’t know each
other very well and are going to be somewhat uncomfortable around each other. Then adding in that you have to eat in front of each other adds even more uncomfortableness. Since you’re not doing anything but eating the conversation could and probably will sway towards the boring side leading to awkward pauses and so on. So dinner is out, what about the movie? This is probably the stupidest thing you could do on a first date
because you’re not going to be able to talk to each other. You’re not going to know her and she’s not going to know you any better then if you’d just met on the street. There’s nothing more awkward then sitting next to someone who you’re on a first date with and not talking to them for two hours and then getting out of the movie and your both thinking “okay so what now?”

So now that you know you can’t take her to a movie or out to dinner then what do you do? Glad you asked. Here is the top secret method to making all your first dates a raging success make it FUN! I can’t stress that fact enough!! Do something that is fun and something that she has probably never done on a first date. The key in all of this is to stand out from the rest of the pack. Every guy takes her to dinner and the movies, but if you’re creative, you’ll be the date she never forgets.

Here are some great Date Ideas:

• Bingo /li>
• Ballroom Dance lessons (salsa, etc)
• Art Lesson
• Pottery Making
• Laser Tag
• Hiking
• Cooking Dinner (both must be active)
• Puzzle Night and Wine (Low Key) Must be the right type of girl
• Sporting Event
• Hookah Bar
• Picnic in a park
• Wine tasting
• Rock climbing
• Build a kite together
• Ice Skating
• Boating

Here are some tips to keep in mind while planning your date:

• Don’t tell her what you’re doing. Women love surprises and when she doesn’t know what’s going to be happening she’ll be thinking about it all the time leading up until the date and thus be thinking about you all the time, which is a good thing.
• Make the date last around 1- 2 hours You don’t want to drag the date on. If it’s going well you can always decide to do something else together but it’s a good rule of thumb to always leave her wanting more.
• Always have an out If the date starts to go bad. Have some sort of an escape plan. For example have your buddy text you at a certain time and that gives you the option of making up a story about some emergency if the date is heading in the wrong direction.
• Always go for the kiss at some point during the date. Not too soon, but maybe about 3/4 of the way thru the date. Don’t try to stick your tongue down her throat but if you reach over and kiss her sweetly on the cheek, she will know that you like her and that gives her some time to prepare emotionally for the first kiss. Many women also like to be asked first before the first kiss. “May I kiss you? is just fine.
• Scope out the date place. Make yourself familiar with the date location and surroundings. Let her know that you are concerned about her safety and that you will protect her if she is in an unknown place. You should also be familiar with whatever activity you decide to do. For example if you’re going to fly a kite make sure you know how to fly a kite. If you don’t, just make it part of the fun, that you are going to learn something new together as a couple. It builds a bonding experience, when you take the time to learn something together and you both get to be beginners. It gives you lots of time to converse, and get to know each other. /li>
• If your deciding where to go (which you should) and it costs money you should at least have enough money to pay for her. Women still like to be with a gentleman and it is a goes to show that you are not cheap. If you don’t have alot of money, let her know that your budge is lacking but you would still like to still like to spend some time with her. Women like to have frankness and honesty, so if you let her know up front, she will respect that. Then just take her on a picnic or something, but then the focus is on the two of you, and she will appreciate that. Don’t leave a cheap tip for the waitress if you go out to dinner, because she will know that that is how you treat others, and will know that eventually you will treat her like that.
• Last but not least just make sure you’re having fun because if you’re having fun chances are so is she and by following these simple guidelines you should have no problem scoring the second date! All women appreciate a man who can make her laugh and get her mind off of her problems. Just don’t try so hard that it’s overkill. That just makes her uncomfortable.

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Humans have been having sex since time immemorial, and not much changed as the centuries slid by. Then in the 1960s, the Pill came out, and the sexual revolution was said to begin. But the past 25 years have seen the most major advancements. Many more women who couldn’t have orgasms are now orgasmic. Many older people, particularly men, can have sex into their 90s. People are talking to each other about their sexual needs, and as a result, they’re more satisfied with their sex lives. And although we’ve made progress, more needs to be done.

First of all, millions of young people are just beginning their sexual lives. They need to be taught what to do and how to do it. Secondly, millions of adults are still having sex the way cave men and women did in the Stone Age. For whatever reason, the message that terrific sex is possible hasn’t penetrated. Finally, many people are still derailed by sexual myths.

How people learn about sex has a great deal to do with how well equipped they are to have sex. So where did most of you learn about sex? You learned a little bit from your parents and a little bit at school. But because much of this information was, rightfully, passed on before you were really ready to use it, it may not have meant all that much to you, and so it didn’t totally sink in.

Later on, if you had another class, you probably felt the need to act blasé, as if you knew it all, and you may not have bothered to listen. This Catch-22 makes having good sex difficult — you get the information before you need it, and you forget what you learned by the time you do need
it. Or you get the facts so confused that they’re not helpful to you.

Our children are the same way. Often, despite our best efforts as parents, kids are more likely to pay attention to what they hear on the street or in the locker room or at a sleepover. How much of this information is accurate is anybody’s guess.

But even though some of this information is true, it leads only to more confusion, because it doesn’t match the sexual myths that are also out there. And when you’re confused don’t you often end up not paying attention to anything you’ve heard — preferring to trust your instincts? Unfortunately, in sexual matters, trusting your instincts can often lead to problems.

In the end, you let trial and error become the teacher of last resort. And when that happens, not unexpectedly, you can often make serious mistakes — such as becoming pregnant when you don’t intend to be, or catching a sexually transmitted disease, or, at the very least, having a less-than-satisfactory sex life, or going through your entire life never having terrific sex.

In the 21st century, this process of misinformation and confusion can’t continue. In the past, we had rules in place to guide us so that, even if we didn’t understand human sexuality all that well, as long as we followed the rules and got married before having sex, we couldn’t stray too far. Can we? Well, the truth is over the past 40 years, these rules have begun to disintegrate badly. Some people would say the results — millions of unintended pregnancies, millions of single parents, vast numbers of people with sexually transmitted diseases — were predictable.

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